Eric's Top 10 Great Movies No One Should Have To Watch More Than Once

by Eric Melin on April 1, 2008

in Top 10s

I watch movies for one reason. I want to experience something emotionally. I want to be moved—it’s that simple. Whether it’s the high-flying action and romance of “Spider-Man 2” the introspective chaos of “Fight Club,” or the non-stop absurdity of “Monty Python and the Holy Grail,” I want to feel something. The blackest and bleakest of dramas have a tough road to travel. In order for it to be worth two hours of depression, I have to feel like there is some kind of enlightenment, some human truth. Many of these dark films, like Roman Polanski’s “The Pianist,” keep me coming back for repeated viewings. Some, on the other hand, give me that cathartic experience but also take to me to a place I’m not likely to visit again. I’m not sure that “enjoy” is the right word for this, but try renting one of these exceptional films some night when you’re ready for some artistically disturbing material. I’ve stuck to modern films to keep it to 10, but feel free to comment with additions from any era of filmmaking. Also, here’s J.D.’s response!

wilkinson specek in the bedroom10. In the Bedroom (2001)

A whopper of a directorial debut, Todd Field’s adaptation of the Andre Dubus short story “Killings” earned five Oscar nominations including Best Picture. Grief overtakes married couple Sissy Spacek and Tom Wilkinson after their 18 year-old son is unexpectedly murdered by the separated husband of his older girlfriend, played by Marisa Tomei. A slow burning rage in both of them eventually boils to a head after the murderer gets out on bail and keeps showing his face in the small Maine fishing community where they live. Wilkinson’s attraction to Tomei and his wife’s accusing glances only make the tension even more unbearable. The ending seems a little incongruent since the rest of the film kept the fury to a simmering level, but “In the Bedroom” remains an illuminating look at the unexpected side effects of severe grief.

dylan baker happiness9. Happiness (1998)

Todd Solondz followed up his darkly hilarious “Welcome to the Dollhouse” with another seriously twisted and (depending on your aptitude for masturbation and human misery) funny film. “Happiness” depicts the social misadventures of three sisters and the pathetically disturbed freaks that surround them. Philip Seymour Hoffman is a maladjusted introvert whose only social interaction with women is filthy prank phone calls. Dylan Baker plays a suburban father who turns out to also be a child molester (and who has the most stomach-churning conversation in recent memory with his 11 year-old son). Many of Solondz’s characters come to the eventual revelation that they are incapable of any real emotion at all. There are so many wrong things happening here that the iconic writer/director seems to be suggesting that the kind of behavior depicted in his characters’ search for happiness is not abnormal, but instead the norm for today’s society. It’s been ten years since I first saw this movie, and I have only been recently considering that I may be ready to watch it again.

swank boys don't cry sevigny8. Boys Don’t Cry (1999)

This beautifully-shot independent movie moved me so much when I saw it in the theaters that I bought it on DVD as soon as it was released—and then never watched it again. Hilary Swank won an Oscar for playing the true-life transgendered Brandon Teena, who lived life in a small Nebraska town as a boy until it was discovered he was really a girl. Brandon develops friendships both romantic and platonic, but his friends’ confusion manifests itself in extreme violence and guilt. Brandon himself was unprepared to deal with his own gender identity crisis, and first-time feature writer/director Kimberly Peirce (“Stop-Loss”) elucidates why none of his friends were either. The whole experience is enlightening, tragic, and completely maddening.

Cristian Mungiu 4 months 3 weeks 2 days7. 4 Months, 3 Weeks, 2 Days (2007), The Death of Mr. Lazarescu (2005)

Cinematographer Oleg Mutu shot both of these disturbing neo-realist pictures, which herald a burgeoning new movement in Romanian film. Cristian Mungiu’s Cannes Palm d’Or winner“4 Months” follows the trials of two female college students in 1980s Communist Romania who seek out an illegal abortion, while Cristi Puiu’s “Mr. Lazarescu” follows an aged alcoholic widow who has a terrible headache and is puking blood through the ailing Bucharest medical system. The low-light documentary style of the camerawork and elimination of any soundtrack music only serve to heighten the reality of these awful situations. The events in each film provide very little relief from the insensitivity of human beings, even though the DVD box of “Mr. Lazarescu” calls it a black comedy. I admired both movies, and am glad to have achieved a level of emotional participation, but I never cracked a smile during either film, and I never want to watch either of them again.

aaron eckhart in the company of men6. In the Company of Men (1997)

Two misogynist yuppies set out to ruin the life of the most innocent young woman they can find in this difficult play-turned-independent feature from writer/director Neil LaBute. An ultra low-budget sledgehammer satire on modern corporate power and the male libido, “In the Company of Men” can be as funny as it is malicious, but it is anything but an easy watch. It launched the film career of Aaron Eckhart, who plays the most single-mindedly evil office worker ever—a man drunk with power and so heartless that he gets off on toying with the affections of a pretty, deaf subordinate just so he can crush her completely. There is something to be said for the unusually high level of uncompromising cruelty that LaBute puts on display here. As hard as the movie is to get through, “In the Company of Men” has a lot to say about the fear-driven complex that can lead to this kind of abuse.

the sweet hereafter polley holm5. The Sweet Hereafter (1997)

If grief was the overriding emotion that drove “In the Bedroom,” then is the soul of every frame of director Atom Egoyan’s adaptation of the novel of the same name by Russell Banks. A school bus accident in a small Canadian town leaves the residents crippled with loss. Ian Holm plays a lawyer who tries to convince the families to sue for damages (and thus keeps the town’s wounds open and fresh), and Sarah Polley is a survivor who lies to keep her sexually-abusive father from benefiting financially from the crash. This haunting movie draws a sympathetic portrait of everyone, including Holm’s lawyer, who’s dealing with his own family tragedy as well. More than any other film on this list, the pervasive downbeat mood of “The Sweet Hereafter” outweighs any specific plot developments, making it one singular, depressing examination of human suffering and healing.

burstyn leto requiem for a dream4. Requiem for a Dream (2000)

Often inappropriately devalued as nothing more than an extremely graphic anti-drug PSA, Darren Aronofsky’s imaginative and kinetic film will stay with you long after the final credits roll. Based on Hubert Selby Jr.’s book, “Requiem for a Dream” is really about the dangers of an unattainable dream. Every character in the movie—from Ellen Burstyn’s diet-pill abusing, infomercial-addicted elderly mother to her weak, heroin-addicted son (played by Jared Leto)—makes desperate, stupid attempts to achieve their dreams, and each are thwarted in their own unfortunate way. “Requiem for a Dream” isn’t always as downbeat as some of the other films on this list, but in one particular way, it is way, way harder on an audience than the others: Its characters have hope, and they live for that hope with every passing season. And then reality comes back into focus and kicks every single one of them in the nuts.

cage shue leaving las vegas3. Leaving Las Vegas (1995)

This remarkable movie, helmed by Mike Figgis and starring Best Actor winner Nicolas Cage and Best Actress nominee Elisabeth Shue, is the least judgmental love story ever written. It achieves a clarity and beauty of vision that few movies about alcoholics ever have, mainly because it is all about acceptance. “Leaving Las Vegas” refuses to engage with the typical “life-changing moment” formula that almost every screenplay in the world sticks to. Instead, it observes the often stubborn immovability of the human will. By the time Hollywood screenwriter Cage reaches Sin City, he has left the shattered remains of his life behind and his goal is clear—to spend the last of his money drinking himself to death. An unlikely relationship with Shue’s hooker gives Cage something to look forward to each day, but only under the condition that his ultimate fatalistic goal remains undeterred. Figgis co-wrote the screenplay with the novel’s author John O’Brien, who committed suicide himself two weeks into the shooting of the film.

bjork dancer in the dark2. Dancer in the Dark (2000)

A Czech immigrant factory worker named Selma (played by musician Bjork) has a degenerative disease that’s causing her to go blind in Lars Von Trier’s emotionally draining, digitally-shot musical. Horrible situations keeping piling up for our heroine, who retreats into her mind to stage elaborate musical numbers that feature the characters in her miserable life. She holds out hope that one day she’ll be able to pay for an operation that will save her son from the same fate. Tragedy and uplifting music have been combined in many a musical before, but because Von Trier shoots in a handheld realist style and the level of heartbreak is so enormous, the effect is very jarring in “Dancer in the Dark.” Selma’s situation goes from bad to worse, but she shows great courage in the face of her misfortune and uses music to escape from an increasingly grim reality. The movie won the Palm d’Or and Bjork was awarded Best Actress at Cannes that year, but not without controversy. Supposedly, Von Trier’s method of directing Bjork was so harsh and personally abusive that the singer swore off acting for good after this. A friend of mine was so angry at the movie that he bolted out the door after its conclusion and ran down the street screaming—a reaction that I don’t find to be all that strange, all things considered.

gaspar noe i stand alone1. I Stand Alone (1998)

There are plenty of movies out there, like Gaspar Noe’s “Irreversible,” that I never want to watch again because I learned absolutely nothing from them. But before that film, Noe made “I Stand Alone”—a movie that stands alone for me as the single most grueling cinematic experience I’ve ever had. At least the despair in “Dancer in the Dark” is broken up with false joy every now and then. “I Stand Alone” is one gut-wrenching sucker punch after another, climaxing with a title screen that abruptly comes up and warns theatergoers that they have 30 seconds to leave the theater. There I sat. For 30 seconds, it counted down: 29, 28, and so on. Some people, fed up with the relentless despair and shocking violence they had seen up to that point already, 15, 14…promptly got out of their seats and headed for the exits. 2,1…I sat there, riveted, with the hair on my arms standing at end. Set in Paris in 1980, the film follows a former butcher who lashes out at a world that condemns the lower class to abject poverty. Stuck in a loveless relationship with an overweight, screeching, pregnant woman, he grabs his gun and sets out to find the mentally-deficient teenage daughter he gave up years ago when he went to prison. As hopeless as his outlook is, we get to know the butcher through his inner monologue, which is more than I can say for the poor saps that inhabit the equally shocking but pointless “Irreversible,” which looks at the how one little decision can change the course of your life. “I Stand Alone” involved me emotionally and gave me something to think about, while “Irreversible” just pissed me off and made me feel like I’d seen an NC-17 version of “Sliding Doors” but with no Gwyneth Paltrow.

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{ 37 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Alan Rapp April 1, 2008 at 11:08 am

I like this category. I’d substitute Your Friends and Neighbors for Requiem, and maybe, I know I might be in the minority here, throw in Boogie Nights.


2 Gooj68 April 1, 2008 at 11:46 am

In response to the above comment, there is no substitute for Requiem when it comes to hard-to-watch-but compelling movies.

My addition would be Lars Von Triers’s “Breaking the Waves”.


3 the don April 1, 2008 at 12:02 pm

I couldn’t even finish watching the Pianist. I think I would have killed myself if I had. Also, I would add Adaptation to the list, because I remember being so thoroughly messed up after watching it in the theatre that I couldn’t speak for a day.


4 Dana April 1, 2008 at 12:23 pm

Happiness is the perfect movie for this list!! Netflix recommended it to me because of my love for “Welcome to the Dollhouse”. I definitely wasn’t ready for the subject matter, and I definitely couldn’t watch it again. It’s one that really does sit with you LONG after the viewing is over. Great choice!


5 lilbunnyfoofo April 1, 2008 at 3:13 pm

Nice list. However I’ve got to say that Requiem for a Dream really is a rubbish movie, shrill, (and relentless in it’s shrillness) tedious, and it commits the cinematic crime wherein a white educated upper-middle class female drug addict goes without her substance of choice for an improbably short amount of time (like a day) before immediately becoming a zombie-like prostitute—usually to a an african-amercian pimp in order to add that extra layer of shock (see also: Traffic). Requiem was based on the book by Hubert Selby Jr. Selby also penned Last Exit to Brooklyn which was made into a movie starring Jennifer Jason Leigh in 1989. This movie is actually more depressing than Requiem but without the endless screechy, beating you over the head quality. It is also more compelling.


6 David Bruce Murray April 1, 2008 at 4:58 pm

For Christians, the most obvious film to include would be _Passion Of The Christ_…maybe for some non-Christians as well, though perhaps for different reasons.


7 Reed April 2, 2008 at 12:39 am

Yes, I’d swap breaking the Waves for Dancer in the Dark. It’s a far better film, and also harder to rewatch (and not so anti-American and preachy). It’s the most heart-wrenching movie I’ve ever seen. I loved it, and I don’t think I’ll ever see it again (maybe I’d tune in for the last five minutes if it’s on IFC or something).

And I actually like rewatching portions of Boys Don’t Cry. When Brandon is finding himself and feeling happy for the first time in his life, it so perfectly conveys that mood. But I don’t make it to the finish, obviously.

Great list. I still have to check out some of these, but I’ll now wait until I’m in the right mindset.


8 simon April 2, 2008 at 2:58 am

“In order for it to be worth two hours of depression, I have to feel like there is some kind of enlightenment, some human truth.”
Exactly. I wrote a post just recently which said pretty much the same thing.
Personally I hated Dancer in the Dark because I thought it was essentially cynical and manipulative, whereas I think Happiness shows genuine compassion and understanding for its fucked-up characters.


9 Daithi April 2, 2008 at 5:12 am

Good list — though I’d have to add Lukas Moodysson’s incredible and incredibly tragic Lilja 4-ever.


10 Eric Melin April 2, 2008 at 7:23 am

“Breaking the Waves” would have been on this list as well (and maybe I should have included it with “Dancer” in the same entry), but I was trying to stick with one film from each director. Simon, I thought the music portions of “Dancer” are what made it so special. That’s really where Selma comes alive and it’s such a harrowing contrast to her real life. That mix is very inherent to our existence, and I thought it was conveyed perfectly in that one film.


11 simon April 2, 2008 at 9:25 am

Eric – I liked the music too, but it just feels like Von Trier’s trick (repeated from Dancer in the Dark) is to create an incredibly naive, vulnerable female character, and then shit all over her and kill her. For what? To me it just feels like an empty, cynical attempt to “move” us, almost like a parody of Hollywood tearjerkers. Maybe that’s the point…


12 1minutefilmreview April 3, 2008 at 4:09 am

Great article!
Maybe Audition and Breaking The Waves should be in it too!


13 ChrisKnudsen April 4, 2008 at 10:25 pm

Good idea for a list but man, I have seen Happiness like 20 times because it is that damn awesome. Agree with everything else even though I am thinking about rewatching In the Company of Men just because that dolphin joke was one of the funniest things I saw when I was 15 and I just couldn’t stop laughing at it.


14 Annabelle April 7, 2008 at 2:15 pm

Lilya 4-ever, Man bites dog and The War Zone could be on this list, additionally Christiane F. can be quite hard to watch unless you are in the right mood.


15 Eric Melin April 8, 2008 at 10:07 am

Simon- Great comment. That’s definitely Von Trier’s “trick” as you say. I look at it this way- when you’re watching the Hulk and he gets all big and green but still has his ripped purple shorts on, you don’t discount the whole movie. It’s how Ang Lee deals with the bigger picture. Same with Von Trier– if its carried out in a believable fashion, I’m along for the journey and if its a cynical parody of Hollywood or America in general (which he seems to be doing with Dogville and Manderlay, two seriously trying failures), I’m OK with that as long as the storytelling is solid.

Daihti and Annabelle- Very good suggestions! Thanks for your input. I still need to see Lilya-4-ever…

1minute- I definitely don’t want to see Audition again.

Chris- You scare the hell out of me.


16 Bridget April 8, 2008 at 10:56 pm

Dude, LOLITA. I have seen most of the movies on this list, though not all of them. I’d say I would take out Requiem because I can watch it multiple times even though its so fucked up, and replace it with Lolita… I’m not sure if I’d go with the original or the remake though.


17 Todd Mintz April 14, 2008 at 12:04 pm

Voyager with Sam Shepard & Julie Delphy…awesome & incredibly sad and one I would definitely never want to see again.

Otherwise, darned good list though Dancer in the Dark is definitely a movie I would (and have) seen a second time.


18 Eric Melin April 14, 2008 at 12:54 pm

Bridget- Haven’t seen Kubrick’s Lolita more than once, but I want to. I have seen Reqiuem more than once, but don’t tell anybody.

Todd- I’ve also seen Dancer more than once, but don’t tell anybody. It’s just a list, after all- I love these movies!


19 Todd bod April 15, 2008 at 2:36 pm

Try watching Once Were Warriors a few times. It’s emotionally draining.


20 Paul Mazzoni April 15, 2008 at 7:23 pm

Oh man…I remember reading about “I Stand Alone” not too long ago and was intrigued. Same with “Irreversible”, but that one I KNOW I am too much of wimp to watch and your review convinced me not to bother. With the life I lead, I am seldom in a position at home or in the mindset to watch these kinds of movies. “Mystic River” is one that I thought about for quite some time after viewing it. I would put that on there. “In the Company of Men” I actually would watch again, but mainly to see Eckhart flip through that company annual report in the meeting room. Classic.


21 Eboni Waldburg April 27, 2008 at 11:00 am

A little movie called Family Portraits is absolutely shocking, devastating and craftily sneaky.


22 PoolOfDarkness May 29, 2008 at 1:22 am

Great list Eric. Glad you included “Requiem” and “Leaving Las Vegas,” but i thought there was one glaring omission. Can’t believe no one’s mentioned it yet… “Deliverance.”


23 Eric Melin May 29, 2008 at 2:16 am

Yes! Great movie I never want to see again…


24 Skitlez May 29, 2008 at 7:35 pm

This list screams one movie for me: Six Degrees of Separation


25 JAMinGR August 18, 2008 at 3:51 pm

Legends of the Fall. Actually, I can’t not watch this movie when I happen across it on cable, but it depresses me quite thoroughly every time. The end does have some bit of redemptive quality to it, but it is almost unrelentingly sad throughout.


26 Crook September 1, 2008 at 10:13 am

Grave of the Fireflies – deeply, deeply upsetting.


27 Sinatra December 22, 2008 at 7:19 pm

I have never seen it, but the movies Funny Games and The Seventh Continent have been movies I have been told NOT to watch recently.


28 QJ December 4, 2009 at 8:25 pm

I think the point of Irrevesrsable was to show vengence befor the act that set it into motion. That being said, the whole movie would revolve around the rape and fire extinguisher scenes. Perhaps it does.


29 Eric Melin December 5, 2009 at 9:15 pm


I agree; nice point. I think the entire movie was an exercise–an experiment in perspective. That said, it didn’t involve any revelation worth sitting through that excruciating movie for…


30 Wayne December 16, 2009 at 1:23 pm

A great list idea!

I would short-list “Chuck and Buck.” Even with a happy ending, it pin a horrible mood for days afterwards.


31 Greg April 12, 2011 at 7:50 am

Dogtooth, although it’s arguable whether it’s any good at all I suppose.


32 Eric Melin April 12, 2011 at 8:12 am

Wayne- “Chuck and Buck” is a great example too. Definitely. Disturbing and I’m not in a rush to go back. In fact, since it was out in theaters, I haven’t!

Greg- I might add “Dogtooth” to an updated version of this list for sure, along with “Enter the Void.” I thought “Dogtooth” had value, if anything, just for a logical playing out of a far-out concept. That’s actually how I felt about “Void” too. I can’t say that I got some sort of eye-opening takeaway from them, but both were cinematic experiences that kept me on my toes for sure.


33 Abby April 12, 2011 at 8:44 am

@greg: I’d watch “Dogtooth” again. I really liked it.

“Cache” is a movie that I’m glad I saw, but don’t need to see again. All that pent-up tension…no thanks. Jan Svankmajer’s “Alice” might be on the list, too. Turns out I can’t watch his animation for more than 5-10 minutes before getting grossed out.

I haven’t seen “Happiness” yet, but saw “Life During Wartime” twice in the theater, and liked it a lot. How’s it compare?


34 shannongb April 12, 2011 at 9:37 am

I agree about Chuck and Buck! What do you all think about Towelhead? I though it was one of those that was a great movie but can’t say I liked it or that it was enjoyable because it was so disturbing. One of the most disturbing in recent memory, in my opinion.


35 Trey Hock April 12, 2011 at 8:31 pm

What about “Closer?” It’s like a Mike Nichols kick to the crotch.


36 Trey Hock April 12, 2011 at 8:38 pm

“The Deer Hunter” is a great film that I never need to watch again.

I will say that “The Sweet Hereafter,” “In the Company of Men,” and “Dancer in the Dark” are all films that I thoroughly enjoy revisiting. Though hope is limited in each of those films, there is just enough to make the pain worth it.

I think the toughest films are always the most hopeless.


37 sda November 9, 2014 at 12:05 pm

completely completely wrong about requiem for a dream – pleas change it

this movie is also about drug use – yes

but its about addictions in general – nothing bad about a dream – and to be honest most characters could have gotten their dreams if they would not have used drugs!

examples : harrys girlfriend could have easily work in fashion – she ruined it with drugs

sara goldfarb could have went to the show if she would have stayed away from the medicine (drugs) the doctor gave her – if she would have gone sober she might have had a chance in the show

its about all addiction not only drugs- but drugs is the worst addiction of them all – and this addiction are the cause of the death of the dreams the characters have – thats why the movie has its name

and if you want to be more specific – its about addictions we get to escape dealing with our reality

would really appreciate if you would change your description – this is one of the best films about addictions there is


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